Losing the V-Card! Help please?

Question

I'm 17 years old, and have been in a relationship with my SO for a bit over 5 months now; I feel like I'm ready to get more intimate with him, to check out my V-card. My SO isn't a virgin; he's been with two other girls long before me. We've had some intense foreplay before, but never actual intercourse.

However; I'm terrified of becoming pregnant. We have condoms and he always used the pull-out with the previous girls (so he's very experienced with it), but there's still the tiny chance of becoming pregnant that frightens me beyond belief!
Also, as I mentioned, we've had some intense foreplay before, and while it did feel good, an attempt at fingering hurt terribly bad- I ended up bleeding a tiny bit afterwards!
And hearing horror stories of some friends losing their v-cards too young and regretting it have also kind of made me worry about losing mine. I feel like I'm ready to be close to my SO in that way, but I also don't want to end up regretting it someday.

So my questions to you fellow Glow users are:
How old are you when you lost your V-card? What did it feel like? How much did it hurt? How did you know you were emotionally ready? Do you regret it? Did you ever regret it? And what is the best way, in your opinion, to prevent pregnancy?

(Also, birth control is not an option for me. My parents are very militant when it comes to me and relationships, and insist on treating me like I'm 11).

Answer

Let me put this out there.... Abstinence is the best form of birth control. And if you're having this many reservations, maybe you're not ready. You've only been together for 5 months. Do you love him? Can you imagine spending the rest of your life with him? If you can't, you need to wait. You need to remember that if you accidentally got pregnant, it would be a life sentence. That man will be in your life forever because of your child, even if you aren't married. And if you don't love him, don't give up the most precious thing you have. That being said, the first time won't be fun. It will awkward because it always is. You're scared and unsure of yourself. My biggest piece of advice if you decide to do it is use a condom. Good luck!

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I lost my virginity when I was 18, with my first boyfriend and we had only been dating for 3 months (3 years now). He also wasnt a virgin. I do not regret it, first time was a bit awkward, but first times usually are. If you are having second thoughts it is better to wait. Always always ALWAYS use a condom, it is the best way to avoid unwanted surprises. It might bleed, and if you're not very relaxed it might hurt as well. 
​Just make sure he deserves to be your first, if he does, there is no need to worry about pain and bleeding, that's not what being intimate is about. 
​Dont let him do anything you're not confortable with, above all he must treat you with respect.
​Good luck!! 
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Oh and best form of birth control I would say is to use a condom every single time! And track your period and ovulation which you're probably doing since you're on this app! Lol never use two condoms at the same time (don't know why people do that) and be aware of your more fertile days! That's all I have!!

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I had just turned 18, it was an uncomfortable feeling something I obviously wasn't used to but it didn't hurt very much just felt like I was over stretching down there, I knew I was ready because we had wanted to have sex earlier but something always made me hesitate when he asked if I was sure that I wanted too. This time I just knew that I was ready! I have never regretted it but that's probably because I ended up marrying him :) I think it's one of those times in your life where you will just know that it's the right time! At least that's how it was for me! Just really think about every aspect of it! To me virginity is something kind of sacred! Idk maybe I'm just weird but I like people who hold that part back until they're absolutely certain it's the right person and the right time because once you lose it you don't get it back!

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I lost my virginity at 20 to my husband. He used the pull out method and it hurt really bad. I bled and was in pain for 3 months.We never had any sexual moments between each other before.

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I agree, using a comdom is the best way to go. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 1 year only 1 month after we were dating, I wish I waited. He was very experience though and made me feel good about it And I'm glad I did it with him. However I did contract an STD from him. We used the pull out method and I did get pregnant after 6 months of being sexually active. Be very careful and be sure to use a condom. Also be sure you're ready, if your so worried I think you should wait longer. If he's worth it he worth it he won't mind waiting for you.

Losing the V-Card! Help please?

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