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Your not wrong, but I would make sure you guys are absolutely solid in y'all's relationship first, like after he put a ring on it.
I want a baby.. Am I wrong?
So my boyfriend and I have dated on and off since 2011. Last May (while we were only "talking") I got pregnant (not intentionally), only to miscarry July 3. After that we kind of just went our separate ways until February this yr. We started talking again, and by July we decided to become "official". Things have been beyond amazing this time around. We don't fight, very rarely disagree, spend almost every min of our free time together, things couldn't be better. We've talking about the miscarriage, and babies and we both agree that one day we'd actually try to get pregnant.. I kind of feel selfish, but I'm ready now. I'm 25, he's 31, we both have good jobs and the means to financially support ourselves and a baby. He also has another child (8) and says he doesn't want to rush things just yet, because he doesn't want her upset. I totally understand where he's coming from, and respect his decision .. I truly do love him and am willing to wait till EVERYONE is ready. It's just at times, I kinda feel like "ok, his little girl is 8, she'd totally understand and would love the big sis status." Then I feel soo selfish for thinking that. Am I wrong?
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You can't go wrong with your feelings. Just make sure with yourself if you want to have a child with your boyfriend, or you just want to have a child (it's great to want it :)I've been wanting to be a mother ever since I'm 25. I've waited a few years, and took my time to see myself in any relationship I've been in. I'm delited to have taken the time. I'm now 32, pregnant with my beutiful husband, we're best friends and never fight.So, please take more time, just to see where you are. And stay with your feelings - they never wrong!!
You're not wrong, but neither is he. Wait until you've been together a bit longer, maybe both of you sit down with his daughter and ask how she would feel about being a big sister, and how soon she'd be cool with it. My step daughter told me she wanted to be 11 before I get pregnant, weirdest stipulation I've heard since she was only a month away from being 11, but we waited that while month ;) lol
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