How to be confident?

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I feel like the ugliest person in the world.  My teeth aren't straight, I don't have a flat belly, my skin isn't clear.. 
My boyfriend tells me i'm pretty but i see him all the time checking out the girls with blonde hair, blue/green eyes, big boobs, perfect smile and straight hair..And that makes me feel so much worse about myself. I'm none of that. I have really curly hair, daek brown eyes, red/brown hair.. I suffered from depression from ages 8-14 and i was bullied every day and told to kill myself because i'm ugly. I feel like i cant have a good relationship all because i'm too jealous because i don't feel good enough...
What can I do?

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You're gorgeous! I love your hair :)
Confidence isn't something that can be taught...it comes from inside you. There is no quick fix. But I can tell you how to start getting into the right mindset.
 1. Stop insulting yourself. Whether out loud or just thoughts, QUIT IT. For every insult you think about your body, give yourself 3 compliments. Be specific. You insult particular parts of your body. So compliment certain body parts. 
2. Every day before you shower, get naked and look in the mirror and tell yourself "I am beautiful, I am confident, and it doesn't matter what anyone else says, because I know my worth, and I am GORGEOUS." 
3. ACT like you know you're gorgeous. Walk with your head up, straight back. Wear cute clothes and smile and laugh and act like you don't care what anyone thinks about you. Fake it til you make it.
 After a while, you'll find that you actually believe it. And you should. Because it's TRUE. you just have to start telling yourself the truth instead of the lies you believe. And I can tell you right now, believe it or not, science has proven that over half the people that are considered highly attractive are actually quite average. But because they are confident, they are seen as more desirable. Confidence is attractive. It also helps to know that EVERY girl is self conscious about herself. The most beautiful woman in the world has days where she just feels BLAH. there's something about her body that she absolutely hates, even though in reality nothing is wrong with her. We as women are built that way. Our eyes and minds are critical of flaws that aren't there. So Like I said, start complimenting yourself more than you insult yourself, and you'll start to see yourself for how beautiful you truly are.

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I'll be honest the way you made yourself sound was HOREIBLY UGLY and I thought there would be no picture but then I seen your picture.. Your the type of girl guys go for. I don't know about your personality but your so beautiful!  If anything those other girls should be jealous of you because I would be!

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You are very beautiful! I do understand where you are coming from. I've just recently learned to love me for me. It took awhile and it's hard cause people are hurtful with words. But do your best not to listen to them.

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I felt the same way because I am no where near confident but you just have to remember that he chose you not the girls you think are pretty. You are beautiful & the only you there is. You are really gorgeous the way you are.

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My girl my girl my girl....
​Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!! That means YOUR eye!!! You must see you first for who you are!!! You were perfectly created to be you!!! There's only one!! No other you!!! Unique rare just one!!! That is beautiful!!
​Beauty never comes from the outside!!!  surface has no depth hence the word surface!! There are many evils or ugly things that may look good but are in fact very much the opposite !  
​You were fearfully and wonderfully made you were knit together in your mothers womb by the god almighty !!! He has a plan and a purpose for you!!! 
​Sam is beautiful Sam is amazing Sam is kind Sam is sweet Sam is strong Sam walks tall Sam holds her head up high Sam is the daughter of the King Sam is brave Sam is happy Sam is patient Sam is ..... 
​You continue the list ..,
​Sam is loved!!!!
​Don't forget to remember WHO YOU ARE!!!! No one can tell you that but YOU!!!
​Be sweet beautiful girl!

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You are beautiful! I to am a natural ginger with freckles. I now have stretch marks due to two children. But I also was bullied in school. I got called many names for hair color or freckles. I absolutely hated myself. But I also met my first love freshman year and everything changed. He showered me with compliments. He called me  beautiful and gorgeous. To me those terms mean more to me then hot or sexy. He'd tell me reasons why he thought I was beautiful and it was good to hear. Not to mention he absolutely loves redheads.

It's natural for guys to check out other women and same goes with women checking out other men. He was drawn to you for a reason. If he tells you, you are beautiful then believe him. If you guys have an open relationship where you can talk about everything,  ask him what drew him to you,  what he thinks makes you beautiful. Maybe hearing the things he likes about you,  will help you to see what sees.

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Funny thing is I have bnde hair and blue/green eyes. I had braces so my teeth are straight and my boobs aren't huge but they can hold their own. But in ALL Honestly I want YOUR look. Your hair is that pretty red mine will never turn. You are far from ugly and I was expecting something WAY different from what you said. Girls can be so mean some times. Keep you chin up because confidence is what makes you beautiful.  If you know your beautiful then everyone else will see and know it too.

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Girl your beautiful! Not just saying that. What makes my confidence go way up is when I'm all dolled up. Put some makeup on, do your hair, put some nice clothes on and then go somewhere with your BF. I bet guys will be checking you out and your BF will b jealous.... Lol... If you don't like all that then find what makes you happy and what your comfortable with.

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Aww huni that's awful. Don't u Eva put yourself down like that!!! U are pretty!! U have to learn yourself and expect ya body how it is. NO ONE is perfect. No one is going to love u how u would love yourself. U keep your head up, and think positive. Ur to pretty to be insecure huni.

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You are absolutely gorgeous girl!! Just look in the mirror and tell yourself everyday that you are and smile and after a while, you'll believe it too! I used to be the same way. Just know that you are absolutely, 100% gorgeous :)

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