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Question

My fiance and I have been ttc for 6 months, going on 7. This is the last day of my fertile window, so we wont know for 2 weeks if i'm pregnant. We don't live together so we were texting and I brought up the pregnancy topic. He said "don't worry, im sure you were ovulating because it was wet And stretchy." Then, he asked what i wanted to do if i wasnt pregnant.. So I asked him what he wanted, to hear his input. And he said "You know i hate deciding. I will always pick the easy way and baby making is the most stressful thing ive ever done. I want to have a kid but its too stressful so if your pregnant god wants this. If your not then its not time yet" 
So i asked him.. "Do you want this baby?"

His reply was "yeah.. No. Its just stressful with everything going on. My parents are fighting alot. School is kicking my ass. I just joined the army, and plus work, us, and everything with myself is too hard."
I said that it was okay that he didnt want a baby and he said "your probably calling me every name in the book right now." Then texted again amd said "but you probably are pregnant so it's okay c: "

So im questioning whether I should take plan b or not. I want this.. But does he? Sometimes he gets really exciting, talking about it, wanting to plan. Then other days he will just say hes not ready. An alot of times he will say things like "i bet your pregnant" or "hey preggers"

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I don't think this is something you vote on on an app, hon. I know his mixed signals are rough on you, but you two need to sit face to face and have this conversation so you read his body language and expressions, not just his texts. To me, it sounds like between the Army, and being in school, and engaged, y'all have full plates and should probably wait. Take it from me, I'm an AF wife, and my husband was in basic & tech school for a combined 22 weeks of my pregnancy which was extremely hard. Then, his first deployment came when our baby was only 5 months old, to be left with a newborn was beyond hard add in the stress of having half your heart deployed into a war zone and I came very close to a full mental breakdown. Maybe you two should give it more time before you TTC anymore. I don't advocate Plan B, so I don't advise that (it's a massive dose of synthetic hormones), but if you're not pregnant this time, I'd wait.

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Having a baby is a HUGE deal, and I think you guys need to hold off on having a baby bcuz he seems kinda back and forth with it and you guys aren't living together (which will make things more complicated) and I feel like having a baby is something to be joyful and happy about and it doesn't seem like it's going to be that way for you ! Just always REMEBER bring a child into a situation were you won't regret it later ! GL Hun I hope it all works out for you!!!

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Listen. You're not stupid. You know it is a big deal to have a baby. So let's just leave that whole sermon out of it.

He wants to have a baby but it is SOOO stressful TTC. It's an emotional roller coaster and I know exactly what he is saying. I wouldn't take a plan b. if I were you. What if you are pregnant now and have issues TTC after this??

And as he says, if it happens it was meant to be. Take whatever happens as a gift.  But I would maybe cool your jets on next cycle if you're not pregnant and let life settle down.

And the haters, I waited until marriage, etc, but you have no right to judge. If you don't agree with her post, don't reply!

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I agree with the two ladies above, wait until you are both fully committed to having a baby, neither one of you should be wishy-washy about this, it's the biggest decision you will EVER make together. Maybe you have put too much pressure on him? How did you two come about deciding you wanted a baby now?

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