How normal is not being Maternal ?

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I just can deal with the idea of having a child. How is that I don't have a maternal instinct ? I mean I can deal with them but the idea of having one of my own really depresses me. I thought that it was a matter of time when I could change my mind but, I hate the idea of it.

I see moms saying is the best thing that has happened to their lives but they look like crap!

And let's not even go to pregnancy, I just found it horrible.

Do you think one day the "maternal bones" on me will wake up?

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Not everyone wants to be a parent. There's nothing wrong with that. It's a choice. You're perfectly normal.

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Some women are like that. Might change. Might not. I have a friend like that, other people having kids is great but no way no how is she having some.

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I was never maternal or anything like that and I never wanted children. And then I got pregnant. As my pregnancy went on, I got more and more maternal. My son is 3 months old now and I'm insanely maternal. I think it just comes with being a mom for some women.

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You're saying mom's look like crap?

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You may possibly just be one of the few women who doesn't want any children. My cousin was like that, than she got pregnant, and couldn't love her daughter more. It just takes time, I guess.

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I was never maternal till I held my first daughter. My mum actually worried my whole pregnancy I wouldn't
Handle motherhood Because I
Never had that instinct but once I had my own it kicked in.

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I'm 28 & got a tubal ligation a few months ago. I'm not maternal. I've never wanted kids. Plus there's a genetic factor invoked with my decision - something in my family I don't even want to risk passing to another generation. Personally I feel like if I ever do want to be a mom, there's so many children already "out there" for fostering/adoption. I get fulfillment from mentoring kids, and that's about as far as I wanna go in terms of "parenting". It's a very personal decision!

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I'm 32 and don't want any.  I probably will seek the best option for sterilization when I'm close to 40.  Don't get me wrong, I do like children and ironically they seem to love me.  I just know that I don't want any of my own.  Ultimately, you should be honest with yourself.  There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids just like there isn't anything wrong with wanting them.

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If you do t want kids you shouldn't have them. Lots of people change their minds later, but not everybody. Go with what you feel is right for you.

That said, it doesng mean you have no "maternal instinct" - I think that can and does hormonally kick in when you have a baby. :)

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I feel the same way every time I think about being a mom and the thought of the big belly and no sleep makes my stomach hurt :( I worry that I as I get older I really won't want kids

How normal is not being Maternal ?

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