Was I out of line?

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My bf has a 3 yo son with his ex. In my opinion, she is very neglectful regarding the kids health. Since he and I moved in together, I've diagnosed this boy 3 times with 3 different illnesses that his mother said I was overreacting about. First time was an inner ear infection. Second time was asthma. Then I realized he has eczema as well. Since he has been diagnosed by a doc with asthma, and he has had a real bad cough lately I've asked her to take him to the doc. I would but I'm not his parent and my bf has taken him but at this time he can't get him to see his normal doc during the day as he works long hours. His mother has refused to take him no matter how concerned I seem. She came to pick him up today and I kind of went in on her but I didn't curse her out or anything. Just practically BEGGED her to take him because he's been up half the night. She got mad, said I should have taken him, then called me out of my name. I had an attitude, absolutely. But I don't deserve that for caring about her son. Am I wrong for being concerned? Should I just shut my mouth and let the kid be sick or what?

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No it's her fault for being a bad mother

And she probably doesn't like you which makes her not respect your opinion.

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Im not saying that. It's never wrong to care about a child. But if there's a problem just casually tell her. Don't makes a diagnosis or be aggressive she'll automatically go on the defense. She probably feels like you're attacking her parenting. All you can really do is tell her and your bf and let them deal with it.

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Are you a dr? How did you diagnose and inner ear infection, eczema and asthma?

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My SO also has a 3 y/o from a previous relationship. She was an unfit mother so fortunate for us she moved across state and doesn't see him so we are raising him together. But when she was living in state, she had nothing to do with the baby until they moved into my house then all of a sudden she was mother of the year (lasted for a month).
The disrespect is bottom line out of jealousy, they don't want to see their kid in the hands of another woman.
You weren't crossing the line, you're just worried about him. And for future reference I think you are allowed to take the baby to his/her doctor as long as your boyfriend knows

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You are not the parent. I won't preach but... Find a man who doesn't have children.