"When are you going to have kids": what do you say?

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Lately, more & more people feel compelled to ask me personal questions or make comments about having children: "when are you having children", "you better start soon, you aren't getting any younger".  These comments cut like a knife. Does this happen to you? How do you politely respond?

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I get asked a lot and I'm honest with people and I say "we've had four miscarriages and we've been trying for 3 years" (most people don't know how to respond, and so they change the subject) I'm not sure why people ask if there not prepared for the reply. Although there have been a few who have said they too have had miscarriages and we have gone on to have an encouraging conversation.

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I usually just don't even respond.  They eventually get the hint that I don't want to talk about it. I even had one of my parents friends (who I don't even know) explain to me that I was running out of eggs as if I somehow didn't know that. I'm 29 and been TTC for 1 year now. I wish people would mind their own business.

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I'm having the same problem at work. TTC baby number 2 for the past 4 months, and everyone keeps asking when she's going to have a sibling.

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My husband says we're in "practice mode"... lol I usually say whenever the time is right it'll happen...

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"When ever God feels it is right for me." Then walk away. It doesn't state you are actively trying and doesn't state you are avoiding pregnancy. Also makes them think that you might not be pregnant yet due to other reasons.

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Idk I really want one but I just say no I got pets.. Honestly don't think its Any of their business.

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I just say "we haven't been blessed with another baby yet". That usually gets them off my back

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My mother in law shows me little girl clothes and says " when ever you have a baby I have tons on stuff, aww I'm so ready for my grand baby." And tells my sons " mamas having a baby, I say don't get them all excited. They really like babies. But it's very frustrating. I've been TTC for 13 months and no luck , in no rush tho. I'm going to give it to the 2 year mark before we go to the doctors. I just say when the time is right also

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I say (when it happens it happens)

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We say we haven't decided yet.