Marriage problems need advice???

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Ladies I would love advice! 
   Been with my husband for four years and married for one, we both love each other to death, one of our problems is the past with trust and miscommunication. We are living together but not together but I'm finding it hard to see if I should work it out or just be done. I really want it to be worked out but I feel like he doesn't but other days he tries so I'm confused?

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If he's refusing to see a counselor, does he have an alternate suggestion? Otherwise it sounds like he's just waiting for you to be the one who leaves him, which is pathetic.

I know when my ex husband left, my thoughts were "you wanna walk away, let me get the door for you." I'm not one to beg and plead for someone to stay when they've made it clear I'm not worth their effort. You deserve someone who wouldn't let this situation even happen. ?

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If he refuses to see a counselor - you've got a bigger problem than you think.... Obviously he doesn't want to live with you. Why did you marry him? You should have cleard this up BEFORE getting married! I would INSIST to see a counselor - to make it clear HOW important the question is for YOU.

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Put the cards over the table amd take a wise descision, marriage is never perfect.... A peefect marriage is over coming all and still staying togwther

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I think you guys got married for a reason. Try everything you can to work it out that way you know in your heart you did your best if it does fail.

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I would try to find a good counselor you both like. Sometimes an outsiders perspective really help both people to understand each other better.

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Let's just make this clear ? Men are assholes. Point blank. There might be nicer ones. But they are ALL an ass. I'm in the SAME exact situation. Stubborn ass doesn't want to go to a counselor but yet he doesn't want a divorce...... Then step your ass up and fend for your family!!! Ugh. Just makes me mad how men's minds work! Good luck!!! ?✨?