Period day ?

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I didn't think I wanted a baby right now,  but everytime I get my period I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness. It's not the period itself, I don't cramp or bloat. I just get sad knowing I'm not pregnant. I'm too young to have a kid, I know I'm not ready, and I would never purposely try before knowing I can support it. I think it has something to do with my SO joining the Navy, I want a little part of him with me.. if that makes sense. ? I'm just really confused and I was wondering if anyone has gone through this before..

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My husband is in the Army and deployed and he missed our first ultrasound appointment and it's very emotional and hard on you to experience the miracle without him. As happy and excited as we are it's hard to try and have him involved over FaceTime and work around his schedule.

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I've never had an SO or husband leave for long periods of time like that, but I do understand you wanting to keep a little bit of him with you. However, just know that everything will be a lot less stressful if you waited to get pregnant. I don't know how long he plans to be gone, but what if u did get pregnant and he couldn't be there for the birth or to help you take care of the baby? It's a lot of work. Maybe focus more on the future and how you want to work towards your goals like going to college and working on a career while he's gone and when he gets back then you guys can focus on other things...I don't know, just a thought. Trying to help anyway. Think positive and have big dreams ???

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I never wanted kids. I played with dolls and barbies. I thought pregnancy was fascinating and interesting, but I never wanted to go through it myself. Until my husband and I both graduated from college and graduate school, moved to a new home and started working out new "adult" jobs. His hours are longer than mine and I found myself felling lonely and wanting someone else on the house with me. 
We could have gotten a roommate, but one month I got my period and I was devastated. I cried and was depressed the entire period. That's when my husband and I started talking about starting to try for a baby.