am I dumb?

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so my SO cheated on me and ended up having a son with the girl, which broke my heart so much! we have a daughter together and he also has a daughter from another previous relationship before me. Am I stupid for staying? Although it killed me I had to forgive him not for him but for me, we talk to a church counselor about our relationship and have both moved on from the situation. I can't forget what he's done but I know how sorry he is and although it questions trust in my eyes I still love him and we share a family together. the girl keeps his son from him and I bought things such as car seat clothes and etc for him and she refuses to let him see the baby. I accepted what has happen. Please tell me I'm not dumb for staying

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I really think you should have left hun. He broke your trust and had a hole other baby with another women.

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You should have left!!!!

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Leave!

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I would've been outta there!

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Taking this from another angle, did you buy those items out of your own goodwill or is your SO living off you? If it's the former, that's very sweet of you but if it's the latter I'd say let him loose and start acting like a man by proving for himself and whatever family and. Children he has.

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I won't call you dumb but will say your still learning...eventually you will get fed up with his bullshit and then you will be able to leave..you can still love him and just not be with him. I get it's hard but you have to do what's best for you! And if he is going to continue and use you then sweety please leave you deserve sooooo much more? just my two cents good luck boo

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I would have gotten the hell out of dodge!!!!!!!

But I don't personally no the situation so I'm sure any type of decision was a tough one to make. I'm sorry that even happened. The thought of that happening to me is sickening.

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I would have left. But, I have a friend in a similar situation and she stayed and has two babies by this guy and he has 1 from the girl he cheated on her with. And the other girl won't let him see his son ever since she found out he was having a child from the current gf when she was pregnant the first time.

It's honestly said how some women act toward the father of their children sometimes.

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How long has it been since you moved on? I went  through a similar  situation, but the chick terminated, so no worries  there, but it still hurt. A LOT. But on the other hand he was mooching off me 70% of the time, he never wanted to help me around the house, his friends  constantly  wanted  him to come over (Im sorry, but I don't  agree friends are family). So sure I  loved him, but I  really had to look from the outside. He was no good for me. Meanwhile, my husband of 9 years has almost done something  stupid but I  stopped  him. I just don't  talk about it. If it comes up, i can tell hes sorry and wants to talk it out, but i wont. Its his fault and it hurt more than the first time with the other guy. But were completely  fine now. All os well, and hes a great husband. So look from the outside  of yall relationship. Is he going to do it again (you know if he is). Is he good for you and your kid? Love alone  doesn't make someone a good family man..

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You're not dumb. But I would leave if I were you. Maybe not forever, just giving space where needed. He needs to get himself where he's ready to be a committed man to you. He needs to see what it's like without you so that he can have a reason to focus on bettering himself.