Opinions Needed

Hi I'm Krissie... me and my hubby tried for a year with regular periods ( Always 1st of the month ), charting and positive opk's to no avail. It became so stressful that I went in and had my IUD put back in I just didn't want the option or the stress. So in July I had it put back in. My periods pretty much stopped I spotted so much I couldn't really say when my last period was, needless to say I had so much pain with the IUD they had to remove it on the 21st of November on the 22nd I am pretty sure I started a full on period and hubby really wants us to try again I just don't want to get so emotionally discouraged this time. And should I count the 22nd of November as my new cycle date?