Marriage?!

Question

I've been with my bf now for about 10 months. He's the only man I've ever loved (other than family of course), and he recently told me that he wants to marry me someday. It was nice and flattering, but it really freaked me out. I don't know if I feel the same way. I love him to death and k would do anything for him, but it seems a bit early for that. We also have a lot of conflicting views about "adult matters," like how to raise our future kids and where we would do so. We're only 19 years old, and I don't want to get married until I've become an orthodontist, so I have at least 8 years until I want a rock on my finger. I'm not really asking a question, but I'm open for advice.

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I mean, talking about wanting to get married doesn't mean you have to do it right away. A lot of couples talk about marriage for quite a while before they even get engaged. He might be just letting you know that he views your relationship as one that will last, and he sees himself committing to you.
If he truly loves you and is The One for you, he'll respect that you want to finish school and start your career first.

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I wouldn't worry to much he said he can see marrying you one day. It's not like he was asking u to marry him right then. Just take it slow and I'd it works out for u guys great if not I'm super sorry. You might wanna talk to him bout how you feel about everything an that u want to wait til u graduate college.

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I think it's sweet he's telling you he wants to marry you some day. Doesn't sound like some day will be tomorrow, but even if he proposes, you can always have a longterm engagment. There's no rule stating you need to get married as soon as he asks. If he really loves you, he'll wait. As for different views on parenting and whatnot, not everyone is going to have the same thought process as everyone else. It's called compromise. Good luck in everything you do. :)

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i think its awesome that you want to wait until after college&career! so many young girls these days are all about marriage and babies! which isnt necessarily a bad thing but its hard to go to school with a baby and a husband! i would just tell him that you love him and marriage is a step that you would like to take in the FUTURE after college. he will understand :) and it will give your relationship time to mature!