To leave or not??

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Ok so it turns out my life isn't as perfect as I like to make it out to be. And I'm not sure why he just snapped but he did. I have a room at a local shelter right now! He isn't always like this but I'm guessing with the stress of Christmas he snapped anyways I don't want to go back because my children are scared and I know this isn't right but at the same time he has all the Christmas presents for them and there's no way I can do it. And if I made my situation public I would lose my job and although part time it's a very good Job that could turn Into a good carrer! So I don't know do I stay in a shelter for Christmas? But than they will also have to be told well no theirs no Santa because obviously he controlled all the money and most of it was his anyways he owns the business not me I work maybe 10 hrs a week and take care of the children! Anyways I'm so tired of pretending my life is perfect on facebook here and in real life everyday! Blaaa so frustrated wish he had waited until after Christmas to do this:(  I know everyone is going to say just stay at shelter Christmas isn't about presents! We'll it's not no but how do you tell children this ! And how do you say ok we'll now he's taken away your home and Christmas blaaaaa life sucks if it wasn't Christmas I obviously wouldn't be worried and wouldn't even have to make a choice! I just hope some can realize this and give me some helpful advise not tell me how wrong I  I've been told that enough for now thanks

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Sorry didn't mean to hit stay. Leave they will understand maybe not now but when they are older they will understand it's the best Christmas present you could give them. Also there are many places that give out toys for kids who's family are in situations

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Absolutely leave. It's just one Christmas. The kids will have a lifetime of abuse from your husband wether that be emotionally or physically. In my opinion both. It's to dangerous for any of you to stay. Please please leave. My mom stayed at a shelter for battered woman with 3 kids and started completely over. It can be done. Is gonna hurt so bad and it's gonna be so different but with a good support team and I you religious turn this over to god. Jesus can turn so many broken things into blessings in disguise. In gonna lift you up in a prayer right after I post this.

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Do you live with him? If you press charges (which you totally should), you may be able to get him removed from the home so you and the children can be there. He should spend Christmas in jail, and you should be home with your kids. Please please please go to the police and get him arrested. Protect yourself and protect the kids. I'm sure the police can go get your things, if nothing else... including the children's gifts. Good luck!

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Can you go back and get belongings and the gifts when he isn't home? Or have a friend or relative speak to him about gifts for the kids?

Whatever you do, don't go back. The kids will understand, if not now when they are older.

Try and stay with friends or family, that will help it feel more like the holidays.

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I think protecting your children is priority and not whether they will get Christmas presents. Even if they don't realize it now, they will appreciate your strength and courage for leaving when they grow up.

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This pics are proof of abuse. You need to show them to the police. Get him in jail out of the house. Get ur stuff and the presents and then go back to the shelter or even better yet go to a family or friends house.!

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? leave! Your life and the well being of your kids is the most important thing... You guys are irreplaceable, matrial things can be replaced and who cares what anyone else says or thinks if you leave???? You are the one who took the beating, he is the one who should be ashamed, not u.... There are many programs that help women in your situation... U already made one of the hardest steps which is leaving just stick to your guns and stay away, trust me, I've been there before... Its hard at 1st it really is, but living without fear is priceless ❤️❤️❤️ 
Please stay strong

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I know it's hard. When it comes to our kids we would do anything. But you said you're self they are scared and they need their mother. If they hade any choice it would be you over presents. Think if you go back and he kills you? Would you ever forgive leaving the kids their? We do all we can for our kids and they aren't dum. You need to talk with them. They can solk but they will now you do the right thing. Take care of you and you're pressure kids.

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You can have the police meet you there to get your stuff, which will only be what he allows. but do you have a family member or a friend that could come with you over there for Christmas so they could get what Santa left for them. I have been in that type of situation I know where your coming from no matter what stay away and keep them away her well do to them what he done to you, I'm sure you know that already. I hope you the best for you and your babies, keep them safe

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Me being a girl grown up in a VERY abusive home, I'm thinking about the kids in this situation. My father abused my mother from as early as I can remember to 13 years later when I begged my mother to leave. The abuse only gets worse. I know have a mental illness called PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) caused from watching it and getting beat and I wouldn't wish this sickness on my worst enemy. So, stay for the Christmas present and get sucked back in when he begs you to stay then happens again, OR save you and more importantly your kid's life's and mind. Don't let your kids see those kind of things, because it will affect them for the rest of there life. And honestly, I resent my mother sometimes for staying with my father. I'm sorry if I came off rude but this subject is very important to me. I wish you and the kids the best and what ever you decide, I hope you and them have a wonderful Christmas:)