Sister does meth, my husband smokes pot. Yet we're the bad people...?

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I'm a little furious right now.

So, my husband and I have been together for five years. We live on our own, have jobs, pay our own bills, with no assistance from anyone.

My parents recently found out that my husband smokes pot occasionally. About every other weekend. It is never around our daughter, or around them. They have never seen him smoke.... So, needless to say, my husband is very clean about it, and never just busts it out.

My mom felt the need to go on a rant about how she "doesn't know who I am" and that we can't call ourselves good parents.

About 3 months ago, my sister (who lives at home with them) admitted to doing meth. I was there when she dropped that bomb, and they barely batt an eye. She has had previous drug problems (pills, heroin, even cough syrup -_-)

How can my family and I be torn apart over pot, yet my sister gets treated like an angel child...... ?

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Probably more upset because they expect more from you and your hubby. If your sister has always abused drugs, do you really expect them to be surprised about her doing more drugs?

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I understand why you're frustrated. Sometimes parents aren't fair, or they could be frustrated with your sister and take it out on you. Maybe this isn't the only issue that they are facing.

And she posted this in general sex and relationships....it's not like it's miscategorized. I think if women can post "selfies" on here, she can post a frustrating problem.... Also, what if her family is on Facebook...?

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You need to educate your family because they are being really stupid. They were brain washed into thinking pot is dangerous. Meth is a very very serious drug and your sister needs help. 
Ugh people who are misinformed about pot make me so angry

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Girl, I understand how this could be frustrating and I'm totally on your side. However this is not the place to rant this kinda stuff. Try facebook.

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Same thing happens to me!! I work hard for everything I have!! My sister has 3 kids and doesn't work an is bad on drugs! My brother has one kid and he doesn't or won't work and lives with my mom an he occasionally smokes pot! I have no kids and I work I always have and so does my husband I'm starting college next month and my mom thinks highly of my brother and sister buys them anything they want and food even cars!! I just recently got my first car and I'm 25 just got my license at 23 cuz no one would take me or help me go and my mom said she would help me with a car like pay half and always sad no no you don't want that car! So I ended up getting a crappy 94 honda cuz I needed a car!

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Both are wrong and you should both get your priorities straight. Does she have a kid? If not then that's the problem. Doing drugs isn't responsible parent behavior. Also, she's had an ongoing problem with that. They're probably disappointed that their other child turns out to be married to a pothead.

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So what it's pot!! Not a big deal! They are prob taking their frustrations with ur sister out on you

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I say you should sit down and talk to your mom about it. If he doesn't smoke in front of y'all kids or your parents then he is being respectful. Your mom can not change who he is. Just let her know how you feel and let her know that you don't smoke.

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To get it out of your life. You're family is everything, you only have 1, and if you don't want a wedge in there. Get rid of it. Talk to your parents, explain to them..