Should I be upset that my boy friend watches porn? :(

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I've caught my boy friend watching porn of woman masturbating and I just feel so upset, worthless, second best. Etc etc. I don't know what to do. I wanna talk about it with him but I don't know how or what to say cause I don't want him to think I'm always snooping around in his phone... I just wanna know what's going on...

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I noticed that the "it's a normal thing for men" option was kind of high in votes and I just wanna say that it's not something you have to deal with and you don't have to ignore and be fine with it either. If it truly makes you upset, then you should talk to him about it.

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Not all men do it.

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I know that people say "it's a guy thing" or "it's normal let it go" but i had the same problem when i started dating my bf. It was before we started being intimate so i thought it would be wrong of me to not want him to watch it since i wasn't "delivering in that category". But i talked to him about it anyways and he understood and hasn't watched porn since. Your best bet is to talk and tell him how you feel. Good luck! :)

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I feel like it is normal. Guys like porn usually. If he isn't ignoring you for it then you're in good shape. If it really bothers you, then talk to him about it

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I think it totally depends, all things in moderation

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I had the same problem. I cried for the days.. it was stupid of me to be upset. I lost a ton of confidence. Then I realized that he wasn't doing it to hurt my feelings. Women are turned on by emotions, while men are turned on by what they see and feel. I told him how I felt and he understood. He felt really bad because he didn't know I would be so upset.

The experience made me realize that I had to deal with my confidence and body image issues instead of relying on my boyfriend to make me feel good about myself.
We are now in a very healthy porn-free relationship :) best of luck to you!

Should I be upset that my boy friend watches porn? :(

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