Worst "condolences" you're SICK OF?!

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The worst condolence I ever got was "Well at least at that stage it's just a clump of cells, it's not like an actual baby."
Um, no, do your homework 12 weeks is well beyond a clump of cells. D:
ARG!
OH, and who could neglect "everything happens for a reason." FUCK YOU! Sometimes shirt things happen to good people for because that's the luck of the draw...... -_-

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"God has a plan for everyone" gee thanks so I guess what you are telling me is God doesn't want me to be a mom. Thanks a lot. Glad I don't believe in that.

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Anything that has to do with God. (I'm not religious) almost EVERYONE said something like "God has a plan for everyone" or "God works in mysterious ways" when I had a MMC at 16 weeks. So you're telling me some magical being took my son for no apparent reason? No. I know that kind of stuff helps people who actually believe in it but to the people who don't it hurts. I'm not bashing Christians, I'm just saying that people should also be respectful of other people's beliefs, expecially in unbelievable time of grief following a loss.

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After loosing my 7 month old boy from a heart defect and 2 open heart surgeries  just what I needed was ppl telling me
"God will give you something better" yeah because my baby can be replaced
Oh and my favorite that I always get from ppl at church
"He was never yours, he's gods"
Ok so I'm religious but I'm pretty sure I was the one to give birth to him, look after him and watch him in hospital full of tubes and he's not mine?

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I try to remember that people don't know what to say, so by saying something at least they are acknowledging what happened. 
But the one that got me was when I was asked why I'm focussing on the one negative thing in my life. I should be thankful that I have a good job, nice house had have been on some amazing holidays. 
Yes, I am thankful for those things but I'd give up every single one to have my baby back.

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"You're not the only woman this has happen too, ya know.."

Um.. Well first of all thanks for making me feel like you're belittling my experience and feelings and second I wish it didn't happen as often and wouldn't wish that experience on my worst enemy! I realize the majority of the time people don't realize how insensitive their comments sound sometimes, but they still hurt just the same as if ill intentiones were behind the comment.

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Wow. No, 12 weeks is definitely not a clump of cells. I'm sorry to hear all these things have actually been said.

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