3rd time trying anal

Ok so I know this question has probably already been asked but iv looked through n can't seem to find it but my so and I have tried anal twice before the first time it diddnt hurt but wasn't particularly pleasurable the second time was horrendous and had me in tears but lasts night we tried for the 3rd time it diddnt hurt much but I just felt like I really needed to poo but I got no pleasure from it at all so my question is does it not feel pleasurable for everyone or Is it one of them things that you have to keep trying before it starts to feel good yano like when you first start having sex it takes awhile for it to start feeling good well it did for me anyway so is it the same with anal?