Friend feels trapped by boyfriend, but loves him: what advice can I give her?

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So my friend has a problem with her relationship (and no this isn't one of those cases where I say "my friend" but really mean "me").
Essentially, her current boyfriend, whom she loves and who she knows is amazing and treats her so well and is compatible with her-- he is her first and only boyfriend and sexual partner. She has grown up with the idea that she would have multiple partners in her life before she found "the one", so essentially she could know what it's like to "be" with other guys so she can know for sure that the guy she ends up with is the one she wants to be with. I, on the other hand, grew up believing I'd only have one sexual partner, so my current boyfriend being the only one I've had actual sex with is no problem for me at all.

She loves her boyfriend and he loves her and wants to marry her eventually, but she's curious and wonders if she's missed out.

What advice can I offer her? Should she break up with her bf and explore? Or should she stick it out, knowing she's in love with him and they're great together?

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Tell her this: The grass is greener on whichever side of the fence she waters...

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So she basically wants to end it with a great guy just to be a hoe you telling me your friend is really that naive she'll rather multiple guys run up in her if I'm understanding this right and not just one guy that she knows she doesn't have to worry about fighting over or STDs and whatever else is floating around now a days a man that loves her smh. Yeah she doesn't deserve him highly doubt she'll ever be happy trying to live a speed dating lifestyle and positive that he isn't going to take her back either nobody wants somebody that has been with everybody 🙅 Nah

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I say stick it out. Why ruin something that's going great for the possibility of finding something better. Which may or may not happen. Chances are she'll find worse and when she realizes it it'll be too late because life waits on no one. Life is not going to always going to go the way a person pictures it in their head. She should realize that and get over it.

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If she Really wants to "try guys out" why get in a relationship?  I wouldn't be complaining if my first love would had been perfect and still be together unfortunately we don't all run with the same luck and instead end up getting hurt. But yes eventually we all find our own perfect match after a few or too many 'fuck boys'. if she really loved him she wouldn't be thinking in "trying" other guys out ... my opinion.

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I have never been the type to be with multiple guys. My boyfriend whom I am with currently is my only relationship and only man I've had sex with, and I plan on marrying him. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, he's a great guy and I love him with all my heart. I don't regret not sleeping around or being in multiple relationships. Who wants to keep starting over with someone new? This is just my opinion. Yes you learn things from being in other relationships but that's about the only positive thing about having multiple relationships/breakups. I've learned SO many things from my relationship now, about myself, about men, about love and about life. So if you can do all that without having your heart broken and going through a break up and starting all over, why not? Tell her she's one of the lucky ones. It's normal to be a little curious sometimes but if that's all she thinks about, then that's not fair to her boyfriend.

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I would give her my most honest advice which is stay with the one who's treating you good now because that could lead to better thing. Why go find someone and recreate what you have now to a stranger whom you'll have to figure out when you've already figured someone out? At the end it's her choice but when she gets hurt by the next stranger, you can say "I told you so".

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1. she can try it without breaking the relationship, if she´s discreet
2. if her relationship is great, she is stupid to think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence
3. maybe her guy deserves a better girl

Friend feels trapped by boyfriend, but loves him: what advice can I give her?

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