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Sounds like PTSD. Have him speak with his doctor and seek counseling. They have lots of programs available for veterans with PTSD.
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Just looking for someone to talk to, my fiancé and I had a argument that escalated into him getting drunk and wanting to kill himself. I am 8 weeks pregnant and now having to struggle with my fiancé who is ex navy and has been in combat a whole bunch and seen a lot on top of a drinking problem, we have not been together that long which is both our faults and I never knew of this deep dark secret. My son and I have moved out temporarily and I am taking my fiancé to be evaluated Tuesday which may mean he will be in rehab for a while and may end up losing everything...I'm pretty stressed to the max and honestly have no one to speak to so i figured I would reach out on here to see if anyone can in a way relate.....thanks
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I'm an Army wife. Well he got out after his ten years. I go through he'll at times with him. From nightmares to verbal amd emotional roller coasters to him breaking things or even acting like a child. I can't talk to anyone about it cause his family don't believe me and my family won't listen. They rather cut him down then try to help or just be there.
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That's sort of how his family is they think he should hush hush the ptsd it's so wrong
My husband is in the army and just got back from over seas last year and he is still has bad dreams, loud nosiness scary him, I will not let him drink (that's when it's worst) he blames a lot of his buddies deaths on him.. It's hard but I can deal with it.. Some days are scary to be Around him but most days are great. For him I learned it's all about trigger thoughts that set him off.
Br
He said it was either them or him...
Br
I don't know either, it really should be.. My husband took young lives too 😔 he hates it..
Br
My fiancé went against the Pirates and made a decision that killed kids from 5-18.
Thankfully through all of this he has realized and come to terms something is wrong, and I agree I know he would never do anything to hurt us I just don't want him hurt and he's such an amazing good big hearted guy that I know that was not him that night and that's why I'm sticking by him his family isn't too happy with me and thinks I'm to blame but all I did was help him find places he could go because the VA is useless in things like this and the rest is up to him and that I'm only there to hold his hand and let him know things will be fine. It will be a long stretch of ups and downs and will take some time but I hope to make it.
He likely has ptsd. Drinking and wanting to die are common enough due to survivors guilt. Power to Ya honey. My husband used to have that as well and it took time and him wanting to change. It's a dark world and he clearly wants to get out. And don't expect it to happen overnight or even over months. Think years. But he can come out and you can help. My husband used to get night terrors and the most amazing thing- I asked him last time he had one, he said they stopped when I slept next to him. Be his anchor but always keep yourself safe. Sometimes I know he was so drunk he didn't know who I was but I never was afraid of him and knew he would never do anything to hurt me. If you don't feel the same way, keep your baby and yourself safe. Good luck- it's not impossible and it's worth it.
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