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Hi there!

I'm 6weeks5days today with my first ☺️ We are SO excited, but not ready to tell anyone until after the first appointment at 8weeks and some change. Probably will wait to announce to friends until 12 weeks. Anywhoo...

I went to a friend's yesterday for her son's birthday party. After dodging the offer of wine (3 times...) she said to me "you know there is a rumor at work that people think you are pregnant. After you were sick last week people called to ask me. I told them there's no way you are getting pregnant this year!"

I got a little, ok very, upset and said something about the rumor mill and how it would be great if people could mind their own business. I woke up this morning still a little upset about the whole conversation and I'm trying to decide if it's just my hormones making me feel hyper sensitive to things or...

Just thought I'd see if anyone has some friendly thoughts on this.  Thanks!

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Thank you both! It's my second job (p/t) and she is the business owner. I have a feeling some of it comes from her worry that I won't work there with a baby... She is a pretty close friend but doesn't always say the nicest most kind things.

Knowing I have some additional backup on here especially since we haven't told anybody makes me feel great! Thank you thank you!

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I take the glass of wine, but pour a little out each time I go to the bathroom or put it up to my lips and fake it. If I'm at my house, I have a hidden bottle of wine filled with grape juice. I know it's over the top but the rumors in my family (34 cousins alone.. Not including their spouses and kids) is unreal. I go through extreme measures to keep it hidden. Haha

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Maybe she thinks u r pregnant too but just saying those things to help u hide it if she's picking up on it. Cuz a good friend knows if u haven't told her but she's suspecting, maybe it's for good reason so she's respecting your choice to keep it a secret and helping you hide it without realizing how she said it may have been a lil harsh?

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Hmm... That is a bit of an odd comment to make. It definitely would have made me think twice, too. I just wonder what in the world would make someone feel so inclined to say such a comment? Is this a good friend of yours? Is she normally really nice? If so, I wouldn't think too much into it. Perhaps she just said the wrong thing & didn't mean to offend you. Are you really busy at work or maybe up for a promotion? Maybe she meant that she doesn't think you'd get pregnant this year simply because you've already got a lot going on? I'm sure that if she is a good friend of yours then she'll be elated to hear the news when you announce your pregnancy. If she's not a good friend or a nice person—which is why you feel so hurt because of the negative implication in her comment—then I would just shake it off. All that matters is that you're happy about your pregnancy, & all of us September mommies are here to celebrate with you as well! 😊 ♡

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