A little over 1 month after our baby is born we have a wedding to go to that both my fiancé and I are in. We had agreed to be in it 2 years ago. Problem is, we have a 4 year old as then a new born and it's a wedding for friends, not family-plus its 5 hours away! I'm having a c-sections and I refuse to take pain medication after its done. We won't really have the money to spend on this wedding now with a surprise new baby making their appearance. I don't feel comfortable leaving my child with someone I don't know, and we have no family that we can leave the new born with, plus, it's our new born (we didn't leave our now 4 year old with anyone until he was 6months). My fiancé and I think it would be best for me to drop out of the wedding and stay home with the two kids, while he goes and continues to be in the wedding.