Okay here's my plan. (Wedding)

- Engagement party - 4 months before wedding. A dance with food but its at 7 so its not dinner. Wedding party can come if its convenient but they don't have to. Its just a little party with just close friends and family. Its only 100 people invited.

- 3 bridal showers (1 with family and 2 with friends.

I want 3 so that I can be able to talk to everyone each one will be about 50 people. Its not a repeat of same people. Wedding party can come to all if they want but will be told to skip gifts since they are already doing so much.

- Wedding reception will have a gift table for and I have 360 people coming.

Everyone will be getting thank you cards for attending and the card will include thanking for whatever gift they give if they give a gift.

They also get dinner and little thank you gifts. We have prize draws and stuff (where you put your name in).

I want this to be fun for everyone. What's your opinion does it sound like a gift grab?

I don't expect gifts at the engagement party. I invited the amount of people to the actual wedding because of both sides of family and friends and it works easier..