If you saw someone cheating...???

Question

If you saw someone cheating who you knew was married, but didn't know them personally, would you tell their spouses?

Answer

No, it's none of my business. I don't know them. I don't know if they are even cheating... Are they poly? Do they have an open marriage?

Or are they in an abusive relationship? Could telling the spouse get them severely hurt?

Answer

I would tell no matter what. I wish someone would have told me. My so cheated on Mr when our dd was 5 weeks old, and it took a few months and me going through his phone to find out, a lot of 'our' friends knew what was going on, and no one said anything. It hurts, but the one being cheated on needs to know what's going on!!! Just my opinion

Answer

If you don't know them personally I don't think it's any of your business..

Answer

Are we catching them mid blowjob or just at the strip club or out to dinner with someone? Because the last two are not necessarily cheating depending on your relationship, and the last one, what if it's their sister or something, you don't know.

Either way, if I didn't know the person personally, I'd probably keep my mouth shut unless I saw it multiple multiple times, and then I don't even know how I would approach the subject... That's a tough situation to be in for sure.

Answer

No. I couldn't be the one to break that news. 
I worked in a bar and some guys would come in on certain days with their wife and kids and other nights with different women. I'd be polite and do my job and stop to chat regardless. Got better tips on the nights they were naughty too. Kinda felt like I was being paid for my silence but I've got a kid to feed and rent to pay and it's not my business. 
If it was someone I knew then yeh I would speak up.

Answer

It's not my place to butt into somebody else's relationship.

Answer

On the other side of this I've been the girl that he cheated with. 
His gf and I had mutual friends and they never said a word to her.  
I wasn't the first he'd cheated on her with and they didn't tell her about them either

Answer

When I got cheated on the worst part of it was how many people knew and didn't tell me. He had isolated me so that I didn't have many friends at all but the ones I did have knew, all my kind of friends/kind of just know them knew and not one person ever said a word. I felt like such a complete idiot and THAT took longer to get over than the cheating. I've only ever seen it once and I said something. I just sent an email saying I know it's not my place but I wasn't out looking for this but this is what I saw, and said why I am telling him (because I know how it feels). It sucks because that persons first reaction may be to not believe you at all...

Answer

I would.  I would probably try to do it anonymously though, since I didn't know the person personally, I wouldn't want them to think I was lying and trying to start drama (or that I was the one into his/her SO)

Answer

I know someone who's husband unofficially secretly married a second wife. She knew about the other family (with 5 kids I might add). He had children with the second wife who lived in a different home. 1st legal wife didn't know about 2nd wife for 7 years. Countless people had seen him and 2nd wife together and expressed after to her that they thought she had been okay with it! She was horrified with how many people never had said anything.  
I feel very strongly that I should always talk to the other SO and just say 'I wanted to make sure this wasn't behind your back, so I thought I'd better tell you that I saw your husband... Wife...

If you saw someone cheating...???

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey