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I feel like this is a very supportive group, and I just want to know if anyone else feels this way after an extremely hopeful TTC month.

Going back a little bit, my SO and I always have sex when he comes home for the weekend, well AF showed up this last week and I just don't feel like I'll want it. Normally AF doesn't stop us from having fun, but this month just really brought me down. Our relationship isn't all sex, but I thoroughly believe sex helps a strong relationship a LOT. Do any of you ever just feel not wanting to after her bloody arrival?

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I have been thinking about this since last night! I cannot imagine how I would react if I were in your shoes Karaline but I feel like it would be very similar. My husband pisses me off to no end sometimes but at the end of the day you'd think that I thought the sun shines out of his ass. No matter what, I know I love him and that he loves me!
All of us could tell all the bad things about our SOs and we could have a grand-ole-time trashing them and saying "you deserve better" but at the end of the day, we only know the facts of each others lives that we choose to share. It sounds like you have good reasoning for choosing to handle the situation the way you did even though it's difficult and confusing especially with all the big changes coming up in your life, exciting changes! I agree that maybe you could see how he feels about all the changes and have a good heart to heart about it all. In the end, only you and him know your relationship inside and out and only YOU can judge your relationship. If you are happy and trust in the love you 2 have then I am nothing but happy for you too! Only you know what is right for your relationship and I wish you both nothing but true love and happiness as the next few exciting chapters of your life unfold together!

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Oh geez, it's so scary the crat rooms and hidden message apps they have now days! It's so easy to meet people and form relationships. It makes my insecure butt even more insecure!!! I would have been so pissed, mostly sad, but very pissed. Did he apologize? Do you know how long it's been going on? Ugh, I'm so sorry. I know it may not seam like a huge deal but I would be sick over it.

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Yep, I totally feel ya. Andre and I have sex all the time, not just fertile days. It helps us to reconnect and stay close to each other. I'm almost always down for it, but I definitely get in my moods and want to be left alone. He seems to easily get his feelings hurt over it, like I'm pushing him away. Sometimes I just don't want to be bothered, though. Honestly, it can become a source of argument for us from time to time, and I hate it. I'm not 'rejecting' him. I just need a damn time out occasionally. 
I think it's totally normal, though. I chalk it up to being mostly hormonal, along with having to dust myself off after receiving such an emotional ass-kicking each month.

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I personally do it with or without AF lol.

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