Hospital bag?!

Annelise • Mom of 5
Okay so I already packed my baby's diaper bag to be ready for when he comes. Let me know if I'm forgetting anything ...
Pjs
Short sleeve onesie
Long sleeve onesie(incase it's cold)
Pants
Swaddler
2 pairs of mittens
Socks
2 hats
2 bibs
A bottle(just in case I can't breast feed) 
Diaper wipes
I didn't pack diapers cause everyone told me the hospital provides them
Now for my hospital bag my mom keeps saying she is going to make me one an whatever. However she lives 2 hours away an I'm going down there for my baby shower but she won't have the hospital bag ready. At my baby shower I will 33weeks. I told her after that I'm not gonna be visiting until after I have the baby cause I don't want to risk going in to early labor down there. I don't know if I should even depend on her to have my hospital bag to me by 36 weeks. I feel I should just make it up myself but that will piss her off. So I'm not sure what to do :/
And then my husbands hospital bag. He says he doesn't need one. Anyone agree with this or should I just pack one for him? And what should I pack?