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Donor angst

Dana • We have one amazing 5yo IVF baby. 41 and TTC #2. After 4 retrievals with 6 failed transfers, we're doing a few Hail Mary IUIs in Feb/March to use up our donor sperm, then closing the book on TTC 🤞
My wife and I have been talking about starting a family for years, and we were so happy when my brother-in-law offered to be a sperm donor. It seemed like the perfect solution - we know and trust him, and better yet, although he'd always be an uncle rather than a parent, our child would grow up knowing who their biological father was. Ideal. 
We naïvely assumed that, since he has 3 beautiful children of his own, there would be no problem with his sperm analysis. This week the results came back showing high MAR (antisperm) antibodies :( We now have to decide if we try <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IUI</a> despite the reduced chance of success (and therefore, more expensive and disappointing <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IUI</a> cycles), or look for an unknown donor. So emotional about the whole thing, I'm just a ball of angst! 
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