Was I wrong? ( sorry it's long )

Question

To give you a little background:

Jada, Cynario, and I have been friends for almost a year. They've been great to be around. But recently,  all they do is complain that I never talk to them or hang out with them. Mind you, they never call/text/message me but expect me to be there when they call me. But all they do when we get together is smoke weed and drink. I'm not about that. Never have been, never will be.

Anyways, it's now boiled down to last night when around 10:30pm Cynario calls me and asks me to babysit her baby. Mind you, she just had the baby january 14. Being that it was late and my boyfriend and I was just falling asleep, I said I can't.

So a few minutes later on Facebook, Jada posts this:

My biggest issue with this is that I have always been there for them. This was the first time I had said no to them. For goodness sakes, the day after Cynario got out of the hospital, she had me watch her baby so she could go to a party, which I guess she and Jada were wanting to do last night.

This morning, I see that Jada posted this:

My question is why they feel the need to go out when Cynario has a baby. Oh, I forgot to tell you that Jada had lied about being pregnant for 9 months. So Jada and I aren't really as close as we were anymore.

So this morning, my boyfriend goes on Facebook on my profile ( because he isn't friends with Jada or Cynario and says this:

Everything he had said was true.

So was I wrong for saying no last night?

Answer

No. You were right, you are right and your man was right. You don't need people like that in your life at all, you're not missing anything.

Also. Cynario. I genuinely thought they were fake names until I saw the screenshots. Who names a baby Cynario. Really.

Answer

No, you weren't wrong, and honestly I wouldn't be friends with them anymore.

They are immature for starting stuff on Facebook, they do drugs which you said you don't do, so why associate?

Don't be like your friend Cynario.... and put yourself in this scenario...... see what I did there? Sorry, I had to lol.

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Wow they aren't friends....they use you. First off she could've always asked you earlier in the day, second you aren't her built in babysitter and have every right to say no. Also for them to air this all over Facebook is ridiculous. No real friends would do that. I'd drop them as quick as your can and focus on your family!

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Also, I hope you get things figured out... but next time I'd suggest blocking out there names. I was able to go on FB just now lol and see all of them.... even yours (which you've got some good FB privacy settings)

But basically, I know what cities they live in, what relationships they are in, I know what their kids look like...

These are all things creepers can use to find, rape, murder, or whatever else. I know this is a pregnancy/period app, but creepers will do whatever they can to find a victim.

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No you have every right, no matter what, to say no.  I dont care, a favor is only a favor if it is something you dont have to do but are willing to do, otherwise it is called an obligation. And side note, I HATE facebook drama.  If they want to act like this why dont you unfreind them and block.  It is very trashy to post drama like this on facebook.  Lol i dont care how old of friends they are, I unfreinded a cousin because she was starting drama.

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You were definitely right for saying no. They are not true friends at all. How could she just go and bash you like that on FB? And it just makes her look stupid because everyone is going to see how messed up she is. Sorry you have such horrible friends.

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No you weren't wrong. If she needed a babysitter she should have provided more nonsense and why should you take time out of your life to look after someone else's child while they go out smoking and drinking? She sounds irresponsible and not the type of friends you need. Your man sounds good. I hope he is. Put yourself and your family first.

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You aren't wrong for saying no. You have every right to do what you want and if they don't like it then they're not true friends. With that being said, yall need to lay off the childish Facebook bullshit. If yall have a baby on the way, time to let go of the drama!

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I agree .. not wrong at all .. they just bad company .. stay far away as possible. Good luck.

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And hearing about the drugs and alcohol comments I just read i would call child protection service (or whatever it's called where you are located) and make an anonymous call. It's very possible those children could be in danger. At the very least they would be investigated and maybe wake the heck up.

Was I wrong? ( sorry it's long )

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