Is it bad if you lied to a guy that he was your first?

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Alright, I'm 17 years old and I lost my virginty at the 12. Not that a wanted to because I was forced (raped) by a relative. When I got to my sophomore year in high school. I dated this guy and 2 months later I had real sex for the first time. Now it's be 8 months since we broke up but we're still friends. Every time we talk about when we had done sexual activity and I never told him that he wasn't my  first. I feel guilty because he doesn't know, well he doesn't but he thinks I got touch sexual never actually raped. Am I wrong?

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Being raped as a child is NOT losing your virginity. That's not even sex.

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I don't believe you should consider being raped losing your virginity. Your boyfriend may not have been the first penetration ever but it was the first consensual and I believe that's what matters! My best friend was raped and she doesn't consider that losing her virginity either...

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Honestly, it all depends on how you look at it. No he wasn't The first guy that you had sex with BUT he is the first guy you had sex with WILLINGLY. That makes him your first to me. Just because someone stole it in the past, doesn't mean you're wrong or dirty in anyway. I was molested for about 6years, he never raped me though, and I immediately told my boyfriend. He knew I'd been touched and that I was scared but he understood. I'm sure yours will too. But you should talk to him about it.

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He was your first because what happened to you before wasn't your choice.. losing your virginity is when you decide you want to do that with someone and it means something to you not just someone doing something like that to you without you being ok with it.

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I would consider him your first, but I would still tell him about it.. only when you're comfortable enough to talk about it though

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Look I was raped to I get but if you feel bad tell him and it's not bad you just didn't want him to know

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I don't think it's bad at all. But if you feel uncomfortable with it and you trust him, tell him. Tell him the whole story, I'm sure he would understand. But only do that if you guys are close friends and you can trust hin

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I voted depends because how close are you too if your really close then I think you should him but if your not then you did right thing

Is it bad if you lied to a guy that he was your first?

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