Gender envy

So-I have a 2.5 year old boy who is autistic. We found out today we are having another boy & if you know anything about autism you know that the chances of having another boy with it sky rocket if it's already occurred in a sibling. I have to be honest & say that I'm worried, scared & honestly only a little excited about having another son. And it's because I know the obstacles he may face. I also know how much therapy he will have to have on a weekly basis of he's anything like his brother. So yeah, I guess you could say I have a bit of gender envy going on but it's mostly because I know what can happen. 
Anyone else?