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Feeling sorry for myself a bit...
My husband has no desire or interest for sex. When we do its only because I ask for it, and even then it usually takes a few days for him to do something about it. I stopped initiating sex a long time ago because I got so bummed out getting turned down all the time. He watches port more then we have sex. He just prefers it. Sex is not a priority but the porn finds its time from him. I've excepted this about him a long time ago but after 7 years it's takes its toll. I'll often fantasize about what it'd be like to have a sexual relationship someone who actually wants it too! I think it would be amazing. I used to have such a high sex drive. It's dwindled down to about once a month. Even then it's often not very enjoyable, sometimes I'll have to stop in the middle of sex because I remember he'd rather be watching porn. I've confided in him the whole situation and he says he sorry and says he'll try but it never does anything. His trying is asking if I need anything now and then, which...I usually don't because I just cant. I'd rather have no sex then try to muster up the emotional courage to go thru w it. When I can, I can't help but feel thankful he put out. I usually thank him when he does. He says that's not why he does it but it doesn't change much. I just wish he could want sex sometimes. Like genuinely WANT it. Humpf. End sob story. Lol. Thanks.