How to encourage husband to have more sex?

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My husband works a lot, so we only have sex once a week on Saturday mornings. I'm not thrilled about it but I'll take what I can get.

We are trying to have a baby and my fertile days fall during the week. How do I encourage my husband to have sex during the week without it feeling like a "chore"?! He's not really into lingerie ... The other day I wore an "outfit" and that was awkward - he def. felt uncomfortable. In addition it seems like he likes being the pursuer so me being aggressive and to initiate wouldn't turn him on either. Any advise would be greatly appreciated!

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TTC for a year now... I had similar challenges w/ my hubby. At first, I would tell him which days were important fertile days for sex, but I actually kinda think that was one of the things that made it less fun for him (turned sex into "we have to" vs. "we get to"). He also doesn't care AT ALL about lingerie and usually was the 'initiator'. So the last several months, I stopped sharing peak days and instead just started making the moves on my own... Kissing his ear, slipping a little tongue, telling him I want him or how irresistible I find him... Little flirtatious things like that which make it more about desirability than baby-making. TMI- I'm really shy when it comes to sex, but I also found that, ahem, gently touching his man-parts for a while has been very well received. :) Sometimes it takes a few days of "play" like this before he's up to doing the deed, which means we sometimes miss our fertile window, but that's okay. I really think changing the focus of the activity goes a long way in preventing sex becoming a chore for him, and it has without question increased our # of days w/sex in a month.

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When you crawl into bed ( and when you're getting ready for bed), have some fun that is completely unrelated to sex, and it most likely will turn into sex😜 Tickle him, tease him, giggle, and act completely irresistible till he can't stand it. I've found that stuff like that gets your man interested way sooner than begging. We are also TTC though and often at the beginning of my fertile week I tell my husband so he knows it really is necessary😝 But then I don't mention it every night and still do the teasing thing so he doesn't feel like it's a chore...and so he doesn't forget. Best wishes!

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Oh lord Odin. 
Tease him a bit and leave him hanging a couple of times. Dont give him any for a week or 2. Give him aphrosiac foods. Like ginseng tea or something.

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Skip a month or the week before to get his chase on!

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Ugh... Another fertile week went buy and sex only once. I'm so frustrated at this point that I just feel like withdrawing and not giving it to him on his Sarurday mornings. I tried being cute, sexy, relaxed - doesn't work. He's affectionate with me and loves me but just doesn't get 'the message'.  I really don't want to emasculate him by asking him what's wrong and why he's not giving it to me... I feel angry :-/

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STRIP TEASE, LAP DANCE.
That's right, instead of going out Friday night, set your SO on a chair, put on something sexy, pull out your best moves, (maybe even practice a few things first if you're not much of dancer) and create a super sexy playlist. (I've got a great one if you need songs!)  I just recently did this for Valentine's Day and my hub was mind blown. 
Do not break character.
Dance and tease him until he just can't take it any more.
Trust me, there's a reason why strip clubs exist in all parts of the world.  
Now go give your husband or boyfriend a reason to never care to see the inside of one.

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Just wake him up in the middle of the night with a BJ or rub his man parts. He won't say no. Trust me I did it to my hubby last night even though he said he was too tired.

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When he gets home, set up some candles, give him a soothing back massage and blast some Barry White ;) mmhmmm <3

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We had the same issue. By the time we both came home from work, he usually was exhausted and would feel so pressured to have sex that either we couldn't finish it didn't bother trying.

So right before my last fertile period, I let him know which days we should try, and said we can have morning sex or nighr sex, whenever he was in the mood, and it was ok if we skipped a day. I didn't mention it again--no lingerie, no reminders, just normal routine. He ended up feeling a lot more relaxed, and we BD-Ed four times during my fertile period. Personally, I found the morning sex to be the best for us, since we're both relaxed--even though I'm not a morning person.

I didn't get pregnant, but we both enjoyed the process a lot more. Hope this helps.

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Try waking him up with a blow job. I doubt he will refuse that sort of initiative.

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