So me and my boyfriend have tried 3 times to have sex, and still we can't seem to conquer it. We are both virgins. I'm 20 and he is 19. We both really want to have sex and are upset that we can't get it right. I don't use tampons bc they hurt to damn bad. But, I know sex is gonna hurt the few first times you do it. Basically I'm just asking for some tips or advice on why we can't have sex...