What to do in bed?!?

I love my husband and I enjoy being intimate with him...he is older than me...but I'm having a problem and need help...I just recently got into buying lubricants and things as such but no toys...I don't like dildos and I don't like anything vibrating...just plain ol making love with each other and using no toys at all...my husband doesn't like going down on me and won't let me go down on him...what else can we do in the bedroom as far as spicing it up and keeping things interesting? Anyone else going through what I'm going through? No vulgarity please. I am struggling with this and can't seem to talk to him about it without getting angry and not wanting to do anything for a while because I am turned off. Help PLZ