Should i trust on my husband after he lied to me saying he wasnt talking to a girl and found it he had her # saved on his phone with some other dude name?

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I know his password on fb but he dont know and i notice he txt her everytime we argue ....

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If he's hiding it from you, and confiding your personal relationship problems with this woman, that's cheating (emotionally) in my book.

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Same thing happened with my now husband when he was my fiancé. His "best friend" was a girl and he decided he only wanted one girl best friend and that was me. So he told her they wouldn't be talking anymore. She was heartbroken. He told me about a week later. 
Mind you I didn't care if he still talked to her or not as long as I knew what the conversations were etc. So I just found his initiative very respectful. 
About 3 weeks later, I find her number in his phone. I ask about it and he claims he hadn't talked to her yet but just had it saved (he had to get into his old broken phone to even get her number to put into his new phone) 
I told him he better tell me the truth because as soon as I got home I was looking at the phone records. He still denied talking to her and got really defensive. 
I got home and found out he was texting her all night at work, ignoring my texts to text her instead, and calling her on his break. 
Needless to say he lost his job because I showed up PISSED. And let everyone know how not focused on work he was...
He claims the messages and conversations were just friends but this bitch didn't even know about me when I called her. Not to mention she had her mommy answer. So I don't know if she knew or not. 
I couldn't see the messages because he deleted them but in the records there were many picture messages sent back and forth....
I finally pulled it out of him later they had dated, after he lied to me forever about it. 
I also found out this girl was only 16!!! She had told him she was 26... he was 27 at the time...
Long story short, ever since then both our phones are open to the other. Especially once that trust is broken. I go through his phone whenever I please and he goes through mine. We also share a Facebook and instagram. There is nothing wrong with being nosey once they break your trust. That's his own damn fault.

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I'd tell him to F O I no he's your husband and all and people will go 'you're married you should try this this this and this' but in my opinion that's worse. When you're married u took a vow to love and trust and honour each other. When people cheat in marriage I find it even worse and harder to forgive.

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No ... But you're married ... You have the right to make him earn you & your trust again. You don't have to do what us unmarried people do... Which is break up forever.  Pack your things and leave. If he loves you and his marriage then he will be willing to do anything to get you back home. You make him regret what he did to you. Find out why he did it... Make him beg. Make him earn your trust ... Which is going to be hard for him to but you're worth it. Sometimes talking and forgiving isn't enough for a man to understand himself and you & y'all commitment .

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If you hafta hide it from your spouse, you shouldn't be doing it. Period. I hope you guys can work it out.

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This was a very big issue for me until I put my foot down. When it comes to marriage I believe you must try to work it out. I also believe that respect is a huge part of marriage. If he wouldn't do it in front of you then it's considered cheating.  Once he realizes that you are the only choice then you get back your respect but put your foot down now. Make him realize how much he will be losing without you.

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I am in the same boat. My husband was txting and calling a girl. A year later i find out hes still in touch with her 😢

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Heeellll Fing no!!! He's a damn liar!! I mean he knew you didn't want him talkin to her so he changed her name to a guys name? That's a typical cheaters move! And to run to talk to her when you have any little argument ....nope! I'd be telling that boy bye!

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I had a similar problem. About 9/10 years I was engaged to this guy and we were sitting together and he didn't notice that I was watching what he was texting to apparently hes "friend" called Amen ... so it didn't bother me. Then I noticed stuff been said like what if your parents don't like me .. and I really like you .. stuff like that. Yet again I didn't say anything. I thought why is he texting all this to a guy. So one day he got a text from a girl named Amenda ... and I was like .. wtf? ... I dumped hes sorry ass... never looked backed.

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I had this problem two years ago. My boyfriend had been sexting his ex and when I found out he told me he deleted her number then when his phone went off I say it was 'Brucey' - I'd never heard of his friend Brucey before so I told him to phone Brucey and that's when he admitted he had saved his ex under a man's name. Anyway, trust is a big thing and I trusted him to tell me the truth and his reasons and told him to delete everything and he has never looked back and we are getting married next month.

Should i trust on my husband after he lied to me saying he wasnt talking to a girl and found it he had her # saved on his phone with some other dude name?

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