How to tell your best friend?

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Please don't judge or anything just hear me out and give me some advice. so my best friend has two daughters, one is 7 and the other is 3. I know she's going through terrible 3s but oh my gosh this little girl does not listen to anyone!!!! She screams at the top of her lungs in the middle of stores, runs wild, and is really rude to people in stores. And my friend doesn't seem to think she's that bad. She usually just lets her do whatever she wants and when people say something my friend goes off on them. I love these little girls but oh my god I refuse to go to any stores with her anymore if she has her kids. Please how do I tell her, her kids are monsters in public without her getting mad at me? Sorry long rant.

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Just tell her no whenever she asks you to go shopping with her and the kids. If she starts to ask why, tell her that you like to relax when you're shopping and it's been kind of stressful lately with the kids. Tell her you'd prefer to go when it's just adults.

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Maybe next time she asks you to go out with her and the girls you can take the opportunity to bring it up gently. It sounds like she might take it badly no matter how you bring it up. Sometime people take things poorly because it's something that they know but they're not sure how to go about fixing. You could look up a good child psychologist that you could tell her about. It might help her to hear from someone like a psychologist that should be able to offer her a way to fix the behavior.

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There comes a time where "keep your nose out if it" doesn't cut it. If the mom can't handle someone telling her like it is (in a respectful manner) that's on her. Go to France and make a ruckus in the stores. People WILL say something. Same as In a movie theatre. I was sitting by a couple of young children that couldn't shut up, an older woman came down from the stands and politely told them to shut up. The mother accepted that and did something about it. 
Parenting "style" or not the behavior is unacceptable. If she wants to let them do that in the house whatever but you teach your children respect. The world isn't theirs and they need to be taught that.

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That's a very touchy subject! I am that mom with the "bratty" child. The child the doesn't know how to mind and throws tantrums and screams and yells! Part if it is that she is the youngest of four and when she was little her dad always thought that everything she did was cute or funny and she was never disciplined for anything! The other part of it is that she was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, and a mood disorder, so there is a lot of her behaviors that she can not control. I have had friends tell me how bad of a parent I am, how I let her walk all over me and disrespect me. I have had friend flat out tell my daughter that she is a brat and I have had a "friend" tell my daughter that she was ruining our friendship! It's one thing for friends or family to give suggestions or try to help with ideas of how to get her behavior under control, but it's completely different if you come out saying things like, look your kid's a brat and you need to do something about. I would maybe talk to your friend, but make sure she knows that you're just concerned and want to help because if she doesn't get her child's behavior under control now it WILL only get worse!

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I think you need to tell your mate to start chastising her child, she does it because she is allowed to run riot!

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I'd just tell her! I understand you have children and kids will be kids BUT your daughter has unacceptable behavior while we're out and maybe you and I boult work together to get her behavior in order while we're in public.

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If she's really your best friend, you can tell her. I've told my BFF that her kid is a little hellion. She broke down and admitted she thought so too but felt horrible for thinking that.

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My younger sister was the same way and I refused to take her anywear. My mom spoiled her. It's not the kid it's her for letting her do those things and thinking it's ok. She seems like the kind of parent that thinks her child can do no wrong. Honesty your best bet is to avoid going places with her and if she asks you why you tell her the truth.

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The problem it's her kid and not yours. If her kid is a hellian, it's not your place to inform her off that. Sure you can say something, everyone has a right to say something, but it's really none of your business. Sorry, but that's the truth. You should really keep your opinion to yourself.

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This is an incredibly difficult situation, and you seriously need to consider how much you value your friendship with this person. Every parent has their own style, and by saying something to her it is very possible that you might lose her as a friend. If you feel it is important to talk to her about it just be as gentle as you can and try to phrase things in a way that doesn't make her feel attacked. Good luck!

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