Baptism. Both my boys were baptized in the Roman Catholic Church of Saint Gabriel's in Milford, CT. Nick (SO) basically picked both godparents for our son Devlyn. The godfather being his brother Tony and his cousin Amy (now Amy and I were close at the time but whenever Nick and I would have personal issues she would become upset with me and we would lose our friendship which is what has happened once more when Nick and I had some personal issues a few months before conceiving our baby). Now here is where I need advice. He went ahead and asked his best friend Brian who just moved back to CT from Florida with his wife and daughter. I knew he was going to ask him right from the beginning but he never asked me. Regardless that doesn't really matter to me because Brian is an amazing guy and I'd be proud to have him be our daughters godfather. Here comes the issue. I have very few female friends. My two best friends are Lea and Thalia. Immediately I asked Lea as she is the person I talk to the most, have know the longest and whom I am closest with. Nick tells me no. For no other reason then he doesn't like her. I feel that because he chose both godparents for our son that I should at least be able to choose our daughters godmother. But he refuses to budge and as adults i know compromise is necessary. So I asked my other (and only) female friend Thalia if she would be interested in being her godmother. She was so excited and so was I. But then we found out even though she has been baptized and had her first communion she was never confirmed so she can't be the godmother. And I'm sort of upset and heartbroken at the same time. I also asked Brian's wife Alex because while we aren't close we are forming a good strong friendship, but she is Jewish. I just feel let down. Nick keeps saying "well they don't have to be on paper" yet my BEST friend Lea is confirmed and active in the church. I'm just at a loss ladies. I do not want this to be an argument yet I've already explained to Nick about what I want. I would like advice of possible from anyone. Either how to speak to him as an adult without just telling him "this is what's happening!!!" and about what your thought are about godparents that aren't on paper but whom we know are the godparents. This has been bugging me for a bit now and while ita early still I just want to know what's going on. Thanks in advance ladies.