Have you ever looked back on your life and said "man i was a f***ing idiot back then"? Yeah.

Being a teenager is the most difficult part of growing up. People are so quick to strip the benefits of childhood away and replace it woth adult responsibilities. But then as soon as you want to do anything that's really addult. (Relationship, sex, baby, etc) adults are just as quick to remind you that you are merely a baby.

I want to get through to the teenagers here that the comments left on your posts by adults who seem rude, patronizing, occasionally even mean? They are usually posted with good intent. Most of the women on this app are under 35, these women were not very long ago in your shoes. We all remember what we were like at 14 and 15. Feeling we are realy to take a spot in the upper levels of teen maturity. We had learned for the dark days of 12 and 13 right?

Yes and no. The reason why relationships are "reserved" to the final stages of growing up is because relationships are hard! They are very difficult, and they change you as a parson. How would you liked to be changed before you know who you are yet? Sex? Sex is a part of a relationship that not only changes you and them, it changes the entire relationship dynamic. Adult stuff? Many adults cannot even handle the adult stuff here. Does that give some perspective? If grown women are having a tough time "handling" their relationships, it only proves that this shizz is real and we really arent just holding out on you to be spiteful. 

Please be open to the comments and advice that take your age into account.

We are not being judgy or even motherly, we really are trying to help that quirky, sweet, brilliant teenage self that we once were and are asking you to savor before you turn 22 and look back and think "damn. I was a f***ing idiot."

^Don't talk to me about exceptions, I realize  that exceptions exist. But it does not take away from the fact that most teens need to focus on themselves. Know what kind of a person they are, what kind of a partner they will like. Red flags and green lights and be able to tell the difference between communication and manipulation. I hope this post gave you a bit of insight on what is going on in the heads of ladies who may seems like they are trying to make you feel bad.