How do you let things go?

Question

What methods do you use to let go of situations and feelings? I have a serious problem where i never let go of things that upset me, but it's straining my relationship. Any advice or methods would be really helpful. Im only 17 and i want to nip this in the bud before it becomes a big problem and i'm too old to change it.

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One thing I learned while I was in therapy was to visualize an emotion or an issue I was having. Give it a shape, color and what ever else you want. Then you visualize it inside you somewhere like in your gut. Bring it up to your check, up through your throat and breathe it out. Make sure when you breathe it out, you breathe out through your mouth. And force that emotion or issue all the way out of your body until you can visualize the whole thing in front of you. Then let it fall into the ground, which makes it nothing to you and no longer a problem. I hope that makes sense.

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You need to deal with a problem then  & there & once it's sorted, it's done, never to be mentioned again! My mother still fights with my father for things that happened 20years ago, seeing this i promised myself that I would not be that way & unnecessarily damage my relationship or waste my time.

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I write about them! Everything I'm feeling about a problem, even if it's ten pages long, and then I burn the pages or rip them apart or throw them out :) it's therapeutic haha

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I had the same problem concerning my SO's other girlfriend. I don't hold grudges, but man . . . The way she treated me (and still does) just . . . GOD she pissed me off. For two years she's done everything in her power to try and ruin my life and make my SO unhappy and try and turn my friends against me. When I call her "the biggest bitch in the world", I'm not exaggerating.

But my hatred and grudge against her was consuming me, just as her hatred for me was consuming her (and still does). It took a long time, but I'm finally free from it. I speak about her frankly now, instead of grudgingly. It's like a weight off my shoulders.

I did it through meditation - much like the method already mentioned. and whenever I thought about her and how much I hated her, I'd instead think about my SO and how happy he and I are together. Those two methods have worked wonders. I highly recommend them.

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Girl, I'm the same way. My marriage was beginning to break. Communication is key. You have GOT to talk to each other. If you're mad at each other, go to different rooms and calm down, then go talk to him. Don't let your pride get in the way. If you truly love each other, you'll always find a way through. Good luck!

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