TTC now starting on tests sperm 1st then my tests - loosing hope age 39yrs

Huff need a big bundle if hope and courage and bravery. I'm 39 and been put on a timeline by the Dr to conceive before I get closer to 40 (big amount of pressure on me)
They said start on tests if nothing's happened naturally after 6mths so we now start. They don't test me till ruled out problems with the male first - hoping all is ok as I think if the problem is on his side it will break him.
Anyone else my age and going through the same ?
Need a friend to walk with through this