Do I have the right to be upset?

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So in the beginning of February, me and my SO got into an argument about his drinking. We've been dating for almost 3 years now and I've really noticed a problem. He would get passed out drunk almost every weekend and I don't like it. Now I'm not saying that drinking is bad. I do it too. I just don't think it's healthy to get super drunk every single weekend, sometimes twice a weekend. I told him that he needed to really watch how much he drinks or I would leave him. 
He stopped for a while but these last couple weeks he's been starting to drink more and more. I talked with him about it and told him he needed to start watching it again and he acted like he isn't doing anything wrong. I'm just getting sick of spending our weekends at parties or looking for some excuse go drink. I told him that I wish we could still do that stiff, but we need weekends for just us to Do stuff together without alcohol. 
Sorry for the rant but I just want to know if I have the right to be mad, or if I'm just holding him down and over reacting.
THANKS!!!

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I would be your SO in this situation. My husband hates that I drink and I'm trying to get help to deal with all the underlying issues I have. He's expressed to me that he's growing tired of it. I had to really start to think about what I want, which is my family. I think him and daughter leaving me would be the worst thing that could ever happen.

I think it takes time, willpower, and support...

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I have had similar problems with my SO. 
He just turned 24 and has a problem with alcohol.. he doesn't see it though. 2 dui's in, along with house arrest and mandatory AA classes, and he still doesn't see it.. sometimes it makes me furious because my little sister was killed by a drunk driver when she was 10 years old.. it's hard to get some people to open their eyes and see what they're really doing..

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When my husband and I first got together, he HAD to drink every night in order to sleep. He would drink a pint of whiskey a night, and finally come to bed around 4 or 5 in the morning too drunk to even say goodnight. I put up with it because I loved him, he had had a hard life and watched his mother commit suicide as a child, so I let that be an excuse. 
A couple years later after we relocated to the lower 48, he had a constant itch to drink. He would drink as often as possible and go as far as to sneak high-volume alcohol into our house and expect me not to notice. I threatened to leave, and did leave to my parents' for a couple weeks without talking to him. When I returned, I made him make a choice: it was me, or alcohol. Since, it's been clear that the choice he made was me, and we only drink on very special occasions. Before I was pregnant, we loved smoking maryjane together, and our bond between that had made us so much stronger and happier of a couple. He realizes now how bad his problem with alcohol was, and would never go back. I love him so much for choosing me over getting drunk.

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My ex is currently suffering from cirrhosis of the liver from the stupid decisions he made when he was younger and he's only 23.

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My husband would drink every single night of the week. He would pass out on the couch drunk every night. I really dont know how he still got up at 5am six days a week to go to work. I told him multiple times he needed help, and needed to stop. I left him a note one night and left with my kids. He called me crying, we came back the next day and he agreed to get help. Its hard... He still struggles and its put a burden on our relationship. So if this man wants to be with you then he will cut back if you want him too.

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I personally don't like drinking or smoking and can't deal with either of them. Good luck. That why I chose someone who doesn't do either

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My fiancée would get drunk sometimes and we talked about it and had fight about it few times while he was drunk. I explained why I don't want him drinking and he stopped drinking. I was honest about how his drinking made me feel and now if he goes and hangs out with his friends if he wants to drink he will ask me and even if I say he can he doesn't drink.

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You always have a right to feel how you do but you don't have a right to give him an ultimatum like that. If he's not shirking responsibilities to drink and isn't a problematic drinker then it's his choice if or when he drinks. If express my concerns but he might not be ready to stop that lifestyle, that's totally his choice.

Do I have the right to be upset?

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