His family in virginia likes to make me cry. They don't think I'm good enough for him, I also don't speak Spanish, nor am i a Mexican woman. I am Italian. 

I had a rough past 11 years with my family and this is the first time I feel they have accepted me back into the family and the first time I have been adult enough to accept it, forgive and mend relationships. My family has also never met my husband in person. My husband wants to take over his dad's company in virginia and I am FREAKING OUT about having to leave my family after only a few months of really enjoying what I've been missing. 3000 miles is a long way, especially with a new baby. I don't want to uproot my daughter and put her in a new place with new people so soon. I don't think I could handle it either. Especially since I don't have a support system in virginia other than my husband who will always be working and dealing with his mother. So... My question is... If you ladies were in my position, would you ask your significant other to stay in California for a year just to regain the relationship and grow as a family then go back to virginia? Or am I being selfish? Is it bad for a baby/me to leave a safe place so soon?