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Soouse/marriage or children first!

❤️ • Tue, Apr 14

Spinoff of the who gets fed first in the household post. With me expecting my first child I've been doing a lot of research online about how to be able to maintain a healthy relationship with my husband as well as when my child gets here. I have found tons of websites and research stating that your marriage or your spouse should actually come first before your children. Now I don't think they're saying that your children need to be put on the back burner by any means. How they describe it is your marriage should come first for a number of reasons. Create stability in the home and your children can see a strong bond between you and your husband/signification other. Helps kids become less self centered and many other things. Pulled some of this off the internet.

There is some controversy about whether one’s marriage or one’s children should come first. Let’s be clear: children’s basic needs must come first. No one is advocating neglecting children’s physical or emotional health. That being said, the marriage should take priority over the children. Most of us go way overboard after meeting the basic needs for our children, and must be reminded that children can thrive without scouts or dance lessons three times a week, but they can’t thrive when their family is on shaky ground

What’s wrong with a child-centered marriage? It doesn’t sound so bad. All parents want their child’s childhood to be better than their own. Particularly for parents who had less-than-perfect childhoods, it can be tempting to focus on nothing but your beautiful child’s development and future. But kids need a stable home first. Tension at home can lead to anxiety, depression and aggression in children.

Anyways what are your thoughts on this?

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