I am in a loving five year relationship with my boyfriend and we are expecting our first child in September. We want to get married some day and have been talking about it more since I've been pregnant. I do not want to have a wedding for several reasons. I just can't justify spending the money on something that neither of us want. I have anxiety issues and hate having attention on me, but the main reason is my extremely complicated family situation. My parents were dovorced almost 15 years ago in an extremely messy way. There is still an active restraining order that doesn't allow them to be in a room together, and they can't hear the others name without getting angry. I have moved past this and am in a place where I am focused on my future family and myself- but it adds to my stance on just having the two of us get married with a justice of the peace. The only issue is my boyfriends mother. We told her of our plan recently and she got very angry. She said everyone would hate us and she would never forgive us if she couldn't come and went on and on and made me feel horrible. Is it wrong that I think it should be about our happiness and not hers? Her two other children had weddings that she attended- it's not like he is her only child. I am thinking maybe I will just never get married... I can't take the drama.