I have a lot of respect for women who are feminists but I'm not one. Because I choose to see things differently I have some women in my family who go out of their way to make me feel stupid. I respect any woman who is a feminist because I know woman would not have the rights they do today without them. But why do my family members do this? I chose to be a house wife my husband did not make me. it's what I wanted and I get made fun of for it. My husband and I also make all decisions together so that means if some of my single cousins start planing a road trip or vacation I tell them I would love to go but I have to run it by by hubby first. I do it out of respect for my husband and to make sure we can financially. Just like when his friends were planing a fishing trip he came to me first before he gave them an answer on weather he could go or not. But because I respect my husband's opinion they tell me I'm weak, he controls me, I can't make a decision for myself, I should grow a backbone, I was raised better than that.... the list goes on. It's not like I ask permission for everything, I go to movies, out to eat, and shopping with friends without "asking"

I have a friend who is a feminist and she actually respects me unlike my family. We can actually sit down and have conversations over our views and everything is fine, we respect eachother. But my family they are just so mean.

I love the women in my family and the fact that they are so independent and fight for what they believe in... but it's really getting to me. I think part of the reason is because I was one a very bold feminist also but my views changed (BEFORE) I met my husband and they blame him. How can I get them to understand this? It's getting to where I don't go to family functions anymore because they just act childish and make snide comments belittling my husband and me. He treats me as an equal and they act like he bosses me around... I'm the bossy one in the relationship!!!! Any advice? And plz nothing rude putting down others views I just want to know how to make then see my side of things. I just want peace between everyone.