Trouble with partner... any others?

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My post earlier

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What if you just do the deed several times a week, making sure you hit your window, but not necessarily broadcasting it to him, so he doesn't feel like that's the only reason your  getting it on :)

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I am there too. Thought it was just me. I 'feel' like mine conciously or subconsciously now avoids having sex during my short fertile window time. We've been TTC  since new year 2015 so only 4 mths and 4 cycles later. But now the spark seems dwindled in the concerted effort to make a baby. I find he takes no active interest in asking about my fertile time and being proactive in us trying during that window. Hence still TTC!!
I think the best thing to do with these partners is one of the best things you can do in any relationship "communicate". Set aside a time to talk to him, not harshly or from the angle of what he's doing wrong but more from the angle of what he's doing right and what you'd love more of and how you "feel" and ask him how he "feels" and take things from there.
I always figure that having a baby with someone is one of THE biggest most massive decisions you can make, it is unrevresable, you can undo a marriage but not a baby, so if we can't even talk about difficult feelings now with that partner pre baby, it won't get better post baby, that's my theory. Iron out anything that may be festering now so it can also make you happy and prepare your body for a healthy pregnancy  (stress and worry doesn't help TTC).
What I also have found is that as women, our God given instincts are right, if we suspect something about our partners those feelings are nearly always validated,  so during your talk you may find yourself right, that he is avoiding BD'ing around your fertile dates for a reason but only a talk will tell you why.
When I finally talked to mine, my feelings  were validated. Communication is key. Don't be afraid of what you might find out. It's a win win situation.  If you find out he's no longer interested then at least you found out before getting that BFP and if you find out he is still interested but if there are other concerns then you get to iron things put and begin properly TTC with a happy spirit.

Good luck. Baby dust to you and me! Xxx

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Stop telling him your ovulating just have fun and have sex with him.

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I am having the same thing going on with my SO he thinks when it happens a just let it happen ... Its so frustrating when we are ttc .,, and I do start feeling bad cause it's all about ttc I tyres something new this time and made it about him with a massage and dinner and nothing about baby it seemed to work he actually thanked me and it was nice to have his wife back for a moment and it be about dun and not worked he seems more willing now that we take time to have fun for our self but I'm my head it's hard cause I still in baby mode

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I'm going through the exact same thing with my husband! I told him this morning that I don't feel supported by him as I have to work so hard to seduce him during my fertile window. He says he wants me to "be cool", but I can't be "cool" when the fertile window is so short and I really want this. The problem is that although he wants a child, he isn't in a rush and I am. I don't want to feel like I didn't do all I can each month to make it happen. I want no regrets. It's no fun having to work so hard for sex though!

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Mine has said that before. Sperm can survive in you for days, so cool it on the sex in general. As for today, explain you're at your most receptive. I'd talk about your feelings of course too.

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