Orgasm problems.. Sorry for paragraph

So, my partner now and my previous sexual partners haven't been able to ever give me an orgasm. It's all fun, then when having sex I start to feel bored. I love being intimate and feeling that close with my partner but I don't get anything from it. My first two orgasms would of be 1. A vibrator and 2. A girl. I can give myself an orgasm by rubbing my clit. But even during sex with my partner, if I rub myself I can't reach one. We have used all kinds of sex toys also. Please someone give ideas, I hate being this way.