Sex live after baby?

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Ladies I need some serious and honest answers here. Do we really have sex after we give birth? I'm not talking about having sex cause ur trying to have another baby or sex cause ur drunk,  but is it possible to have sex cause u AND ur spouse want it?  Like the kind of crazy fun sex u had before u had kids? I haven't had sex since I gave birth a lil over a month ago and I'm not trying to right this second but I made the mistake of asking my husband questions I probably as emotional as I am shouldn't have asked and he was honest (which as upset as his honesty hurts me I wouldn't want anything but honesty) so he told me he's not "turned off" by me at all but it's "a lil weird" since I just popped out our daughter. He's says things will change and right now it's just very new to us both. Is this the end of my sex life? I'm terrified I just ruined what we had sexually (although I still would never change it for the world cause I'm so completely in love with my daughter) but is there still hope for us woman to have the real deal? Is it possible to have it all? I know some woman who marry just to have kids (definitely wasn't me) and once their kid is born it's like the husband is completely ignored. Or having a baby can rock the boat on marriages in other ways like no sex or lack of something u had before the baby but no longer have now. I need some opinions or advice. I know in hormonal and just had a baby but I'm very overly sad about this.

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My hubby and I could barely wait until we got the all clear to have sex again. You just have to keep trying to have that connection with him in more than just a parenting way. You can't just be bonding over your new baby you have to keep some of the old stuff you connected on in your lives too. He'll lose that awkward feeling soon enough. I wouldn't worry too much:)

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Give yourself some time. You'll get back into your old ways soon enough!  I have a 2 year old and am pregnant again and I enjoy my sex life even more than before kids! Having a baby in no way has to ruin intimacy. You just might have to be more careful on when and where you do it now that you're a mom 😉

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I'm pregnant for the third time in two years, if that answers your question... 😆

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With my first child after I healed up 8 weeks after we started of slow as I felt like a blooming Virgin again lol but after that we went back to our great sex life if not it got better to be honest.. just hold up once u get back to normal first few times might be uncomfortable and takes bit getting used to again I feel anyway but when it does it will all be good and as for times if u want it you will find time.. ur kids sleep and also when my son was sleeping even in the day my SO couldn't keep his hands of me we couldn't wait to back to it lol. U can have it all !!

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It's a little freaky for them men and totally normal for them to be a little dry sexually for awhile. And you need time to heal so it's ok. Just wait, and when the time is right it will happen. Your sex life wasn't ruined, it's just been put on pause. Totally normal and totally healthy. Just relax and enjoy the love of your SO and your baby girl.

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I feel like the first month or so things are a little weird but it went right back to normal for me and this is our third even most of my friends have dealt with this and all say their sex lives with their partner does go back to normal so stay positive :)

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I think it will go back to normal as you guys adjust. I personally have not given birth yet (pregnant now), but have close friends that have. And even though on most cases it took a month or two, but their sex lives seemed to go back to normal.