Advice re mother

First off I will say I love my mum, but I'm a very independant person and often feel very suffocated by her, she was quite controlling when I was younger always wanting to know exactly what I'm up to and every detail of my life. I've never "needed" her as such, and although I know she wishes I needed her more I think she should be proud she's raised someone so independant. Anyway... I'm struggling a bit at the moment. I gave birth 14 days ago, towards the end of my pregnancy she started calling me every day for updates and would text me most days to, it drove me mad. In the end I said I didn't want her calling all the time but she didn't listen. Once the baby was born I needed help for the first week (my oh couldn't get off work) and so she came over a lot and helped out. I'm very grateful for the help and I know she loved it. Now though I'm feeling much better and want to get my independence back. I have no objection to her seeing us once or twice a week but I don't know how to tell her if she comes I don't want her staying all day and I really want all the phone calls and texts to stop. There's no need for her to ring and text every day and personally I feel like if there was some space then we'd have more to talk about when we do see each other as at the moment she's already updated me over the phone. I just want my space back, today I said she could come over for an hour in the morning before we go out (thinking it was a good idea to have a time limit) but she said no, not if we were going out and then wanted to know where I was going! I haven't lived with her for 3 years, it's none of her business where I'm going! Anyone in a similar boat?