How do I feel about my surviving twin?

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Lost one of my twins yesterday, and I'm just not dealing with it very well. I don't hate my baby, but I'm so depressed about losing one to heart failure. Has anyone gone through this? How'd you get past it? I feel like I'm never going to be excited about this pregnancy now...

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I have a cousin who went through that and against all odds had a healthy baby girl. Pray for strength. It's normal to mourn loss no matter how early.

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I'm so sorry :( I haven't been through that before but don't beat yourself up over how you're handling it. Now is the time to mourn and be sad. Sending hugs your way!

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I lost one of our twins at 8 weeks before we had a ultrasound and even knew there were twins. I miscarried the twin thinking I lost my baby and that was it. I cried and mourned, feeling horrible. 2.5 weeks later my husband said something was weird and made me take another test. It was super positive. Went to my OB and he confirmed that I was still pregnant and I was about 10 weeks. I was messed up with that for a while. But as our son grew, I balanced back out and started looking forward to meeting our second child. He'll be 8 years old in 3 weeks!

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I am so sorry. I wish I had some kind idea how to make you feel better. Just try to look at this other baby as a blessing.

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Thanks ladies. Finally starting to come out of my depression. Saw Baby B again this week and starting to feel more excited about my growing surviving baby. I want to do something special for Baby A but not sure what is appropriate? It had a heartbeat...I feel like it shouldn't just be forgotten...

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Yes, think positive, I lost the other after a few weeks so chin up you will still have a beautiful healthy baby in the end

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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

How do I feel about my surviving twin?

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