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So my boyfriend and me have been having slight pregnancy scares.. We don't care for the condoms, and we use spermicide or he pulls out, and I don't care for birth control.. That's just me not liking it though. So, I just got this faint positive test, and I send it to him and he's like mad.. But if you don't want that scare then just stop cumming in me period or anything. I really don't care at this point, it's always a argument.. He's 27 this is so childish.. So then he says "I'm glad you ran out those spermicide things, now I can just pull out you don't need to buy anymore" so I said "ok" so he's like "or you can get on birth control like the next normal fucking female" like what the hell? I'm 22 years old and I take care of myself, I work, I go to school, I have my own everything, so if a child comes up I can fully take care of it on my own.. He does way too much!!???

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Well first of all if you guys didn't want a baby then you should have used actual protection. Not just spermicide or the pull out method. Second of all, there are lots of women who don't like/can't be on birth control because of the side effects. So don't let him treat you like you're some weirdo for not being on it. And lastly, if you got a faint positive recently and haven't had your period since then that means you are pregnant and neither of you will have to worry about birth control for about 9 months. My advice is for both of you to be more responsible and also to drop his ass and find someone who's not a dick.

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Sounds like if you both were actually trying to avoid pregnancy you should both stop arguing and use reliable methods. I've never understood the "pull out" method since sperm can be in precum, not just the cum at ejaculation. It takes two to make a baby, so you share the responsibility to prevent or take care of the consequences. Congrats if you're pregnant, and good luck with your relationship.

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At first I was hoping it was a typo and you meant to say that you use spermicide AND the pull out method. Spermicide really isn't meant to be used alone... some people even use it in addition to condoms! As for birth control, lots of women refuse to put those hormones in their body, because BC can have some very serious side effects! Poor choices were made here, but that's life, just make sure you learn from them. For him to place the blame completely on you is wrong, and it could be that he spoke out of fear and stress. Good luck!

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Do you have a picture of the test?

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I don't like birth control but I stopped taking it only when we were ready to start trying. :)

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I apologize but I couldn't finish reading this. This situation lacks responsibility and both of you sound ridiculously immature. You don't like condoms or birth control, yeah, well, you're probably not going to like accidentally becoming pregnant either. Both of you need to suck it up and just get on birth control and/or use condoms. Act like the adults that you are.

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I think this is on both of you. Preventing pregnancy is something BOTH of you need to do. So if it's not birth control or condoms, you should use spermicide AND pull out, not one or the other. Just saying "ok" when he wants to just use the pull out method is putting all the responsibility with him, which isn't very safe. 
But if you're pregnant now, you don't have to worry about birth control for a while. You can adopt, abort, or keep the baby and you need to sit down with your BF and discuss what y'all want to do. Good luck!

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